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Surround yourself with positive people
Be with people who are positive about life. Choose to surround yourself with people who are making positive choices! You are learning to be positive and get what you want. Surround yourself with people that are also
responsible for their success. You are learning techniques. They are learning. Even if you aren’t working on the same goal together, the fact that you are “going the same direction” reinforces and validates your
journeys. If you play tennis, for example, with someone that is better than you are, very often it lifts your game and you play better. It’s the same with life skills you are learning and using. If you are around
people that are trying the same things, positive visualization, looking for joy, having fun, then it makes it that much easier for all of you to accomplish your goals. You learn from each other. You can sustain each
other when one is “low on energy”.
Unfortunately there are people in the world that “want” to bring you down. You’ve heard “misery loves company”? Some people believe the way to get ahead is to pull and push you further behind. They measure
their progress relative to you. They may not be progressing at all. They think progress is being “ahead” of you. Pulling you down, raises their relative level. It’s not a healthy attitude or way to live - comparing.
Sometimes we have to work with a certain person. We have all had customers or coworkers for whom “nothing was ever right”. This is a tough situation. You have to do the best you can. Carefully separate what they say
and do from your response. They may be having the worst day of their lives. Does that have to “ruin” your day? Positive people will have extra energy with which to build relationships. Negative people will draw
energy from you. You control, to some degree, how much energy they can access. Let’s say it’s the customer that’s never happy. They’re on the phone, “Where’s my order? I told you I had to have it by today!” You can
get into it with them, “Ms. Crabby, it’s only nine o’clock in the morning and we’ve done all that we can do to get your order there on time.” If you get into it with them, you are giving them, allowing them to take,
your power. If you keep your power for yourself you might say something like, “Ms. Crabby, It’s obvious that this order is very important to you.” Be supportive and let them burn till their power runs out.
Especially if you know their order is going to be there by ten AM. Sometimes it’s hard to think of something nice about a person and to support them. Do you think anyone is “trying not to have fun”. Do you think Ms.
Crabby woke up this morning and planned to have a bad day? Some people aren’t having as much fun; it’s because they haven’t learned how - yet.
Try this:
Look for people that are positive and happy. Check out your family, coworkers, business associates, people in your church and build relationships with the people that are headed your direction. Look for people that
have a happy attitude. Look for people that give and share. These people will help you on your journey. People with energy to give can help you create the energy that makes the world work. You and another like
minded person can actually create a third entity, a “we”.
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